Masturbation

Okay to masturbate five or six times a day?

Originally Published: September 03, 1993 ~ Last Updated / Reviewed on: August 11, 1998

 

Dear Alice--

I don't know if it's stress or what, but lately I feel the urge to masturbate five or six times a day (and I do). This has been going on for about two months now. I'm a twenty-four-year-old man who doesn't get it any other way lately. Should I be concerned?

Signed --Humble

 

Dear Humble,

Alice has a few questions for you to think about. What was your usual pattern of masturbation in the past? Did anything else in your life change two months ago? You mentioned stress. Is this stress about being in school, leaving a job, moving, ending a relationship?

There are a few directions you can take at this point. One, crazy as it may sound, is to masturbate more often and see if you feel any differently. Another is to try masturbating one or two times less per day and see how that makes you feel. How about a masturbation schedule? This would give you a framework for the activity so that it doesn't take time away from other things you need to do. Also, it would make you conscious about each time you are masturbating, what triggered the need to release, and whether or not there are discernible patterns.

You might want to change your style of masturbation. Try using a lube so that your penis does not become raw or irritated. Alice would also encourage you to try to get more pleasure from each experience with yourself. Choose one time a day to make it something special, to try to change the nature of your interaction with yourself. All of this is to give you more information about your needs, desires, and wants, and make the masturbation experience more deliberate.

If the real issue is that you are lonely, angry, or resentful that you are not "getting it" (sex, orgasm, relief?) any other way lately, you need to think about that. You might look at other stress outlets. Exercise might make a difference physically. Psychologically, there might be something you could do to become more available or more receptive to a potential partner. Don't exclude counseling as an option if this continues to be distressing for you.

Alice

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