Dear Alice,
I am almost nineteen and a virgin. I have had the opportunity to
have sex, but have been holding out for that special person who I
know exists somewhere. Sometimes I feel like a freak, though, like
I have a problem. Should I just give up the wait, or give in to my
hormones?
—Virginal
Dear Virginal,
This is a question that only you can answer for yourself. There is
no right or wrong age to lose your virginity, and while you may
think that every other nineteen-year-old is sexually active, it is
not the case. At other times in this century, premarital chastity
was the norm, and many did not marry until their thirties, if at
all. While your inexperience may be atypical in the nineties, it is not
abnormal. You need to decide for yourself when, with whom, and
how you will have your first sex. There is no judgment, but from
yourself, upon any aspect of this future experience. Do what seems
"right" to you.
- Alice
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Nineteen-year-old virgin
