Dear Alice,
Recently, during a phone conversation with my boyfriend, he told
me that he turned the volume up on his phone. Soon after, he began to
masturbate, while he was talking. I am well aware of phone sex, but the
conversation never came up. I had no idea what to say to him. It was
very loud and there was no mistaking those sounds. Should I confront him
or let it go? Do many men find this satisfying? He complains about not
being able to sleep. Could this have something to do with this?
Dear Reader,
Not only did your boyfriend not give you his undivided attention during
that phone conversation, but his behavior was not consensual. Alice
believes that your relationship calls for your partner to indicate his
"phone sex" intent, and to get your permission to "let his fingers do the
talking." Sure, many men and women, couples and singles, find phone
sex satisfying -- even relationship-saving when two partners are
geographically separated. Is he pulling his cord in the name of
sleep-improvement? Alice encourages you to ask him about his
masturbatory behaviors -- such a conversation might make for a clearer
connection for both of you.
Thanks for calling,
- Alice
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