Dear Reader,

You're right, most erotic videos are produced (and marketed) to appeal to men's fantasies and desires. Erotic entertainment for women is a market that's virtually untapped compared to the one that caters to men. Perhaps one reason is the prevailing myth that women are not visually stimulated. While this is true for some women, plenty of other gals do enjoy watching sexy images. For sex-positive videos written with women in mind, begin by looking for films that are produced by, directed by, and/or star such women as:

• Betty Dodson
  
• Veronica Hart
• Nina Hartley
• Carol Queen
• Candida Royalle
• Annie Sprinkle
• Tristan Taormino

A number of these women have web sites – an online search may point you in the right direction. Some of these women's videos, such as Candida Royalle's for example, have involved storylines that feature full body shots rather than just genital close-ups. Others that are produced by, directed by, and/or star these femmes are "how to" educational flicks on masturbation, oral sex, anal sex, or other techniques.

Since explicit videos are not one-size-fits-all, you may or may not find videos produced and directed by women to be sexy. Similar to individual tastes for particular entertainment on the big screen — whether Hollywood or Independent studios or genres, including drama, comedy, or action — women have preferences for particular types of erotic entertainment on the small screen. Some women enjoy hard-core amateur videos that emphasize women's pleasure. Others prefer soft-core romantic scenes or classics that emphasize female desire and fantasy. One of the women mentioned above, Betty Dodson, has even written about erotic videos, including some helpful tips, such as if you don't like the music, you can turn off the sound and put on your own tunes, and you can use the remote to fast-forward to the good parts and replay them to your heart's content.

Now, how can you get sex-positive erotic videos produced and directed by both men and women that would probably be considered the crème de la crème? On- and offline stores that are women-owned and women-focused exist in part to support this market. Videos are often listed by various categories — including erotic drama, women directors, well developed plot, emphasis on women's pleasure, amateur, sex education, couples, lesbian, bisexual, and fancy filmmaking — that will help you to find videos that you find sexy. You can either ask your local video store if they will stock the titles if they are not already available, or you can purchase them online if you want to be more discreet.

While a handful of woman-centered erotic videos are available, there's a great need for the next generation of women producers and directors to make their debut.

Alice

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